Make Mother’s Day all about you!

This Mother’s Day, I encourage all moms to do what we don’t do well: Be selfish. All day. Don’t settle for just flowers or breakfast in bed, insist that your family spend the whole day doing just what you want. Mother’s Day was created to honor you, so let it do just that!   

Think about the things you love to do with your family and jam in as many of these activities as you can. How about staying in your pajamas and playing Monopoly all morning? Or having someone else make breakfast (and more importantly, clean up) then heading out the door for a family hike? Maybe it’s a double feature at the movie theatre (your pick) with an extra-large popcorn and you plopped right in the middle. 

Or maybe you are feeling quite the opposite and would rather have some alone time. Go for it! It’s your day. Schedule a facial or massage and return to your family refreshed. This can be the best gift of all, especially when your kids are young. 

Remind your kids that this is your special day, so they will need to get their own drink of water or make their own snack. Tell them that relaxing and playing is all that’s allowed on Mother’s Day, and if you work you are breaking the rules.

Contemplate what it means to be a mother and fathom all the mothers who came before you—all the sacrifice, love, care and joy that has been created by generations and generations of mothers. Think about your own mom and the good life lessons she specifically taught you (and ask your son to go fetch you your cell phone so you can call and tell her how you feel). At the same time, really open to the words your spouse and kids say to you on this day—soak up all their hugs and words of appreciation for you.  

Mother’s Day originated in the U.S. from a daughter’s wish to honor her mother. Anna Jarvis of Philadelphia held a memorial service to honor her mother after she died on May 12, 1907. She decorated the church and had lots of white carnations on hand, her mother’s favorite flower. Her mother, by the same name, had a history of organizing women’s groups to promote peace and friendship. The spirit of these groups served as the origins of Mother’s Day. By 1914, the second Sunday in May was deemed a national holiday by President Woodrow Wilson. While it can feel overly commercial today, don’t let all the hype lessen the true meaning of Mother’s Day—a child’s heartfelt appreciation for her mother, and a wish to honor who her mother was and the beautiful job she did.

Lastly, think about what makes you a great mother. Consider your ability to provide unconditional love at the hardest of times—during bouts of stomach flu, per say, or after snotty words from a teenager who is trying to break away. Pat yourself on the back for always being there for your kids, day in and day out. Let the words, “I am a good mother” sink in to the bottom of your toes.  Because you are. You are amazing. Happy Mother’s Day!